How to know not to give up the relationship? All relationships have up and down. They have good times and bad times. Sometimes a relationship can be crippled filled with a lot of arguments misunderstandings. These arguments and misunderstandings cause partners to occasionally give a second thought to the relationship; they think if at the point they found themselves, should they let go or still try to salvage the relationship. Of course, not all relationships in trouble deserve a second chance, but sometimes, a relationship could be filled with arguments misunderstandings but still worth being saved. You just need to know the signs that suggest the relationship can still work or not. Here we share some pointers to look for in your relationship to see if you can give it another chance.
BOTH OF YOU STILL FEEL THE SAME WAY
The first pointer should be the assurance that you and your partner still feel the same way towards each other. It should not be a one-way love, meaning that you are sure of your love for your partner but a bit unsure about your partner, or you have the certainty of your partner but a bit unsure from your side. Despite everything going on, you should have the confidence that love still exists between the two of you, that it is reciprocal. And either of you cannot see life without the other one. Because you are in it together. You like being in each other company regardless of everything happening. And you still trust each other.
WHAT DIVIDED YOU IS OUT OF BOTH YOUR CONTROL
An excellent pointer to look out for is the reasons why you have arguments. That is very significant. If the reasons are entirely independent of both of you, meaning that one of you is not the direct cause of the arguments, because of their behaviour, attitudes… that suggest that the problem lies elsewhere, chances are you could find a way to salvage the relationship. Some reasons not directly coming from the partners involve family-in-law issues, unforeseen and unpredictable problems, …and you are both willing to solve the problems at hand.
YOU SHARE THE SAME VALUES
Sharing the same core values is a significant pointer in a relationship. If you have any serious arguments or misunderstandings with your partner, and both of you believe and defend the same values, this relationship deserves to be saved. You just have to find better ways of communicating, of solving your issues.
YOU SHARE THE SAME VISION IN LIFE
Having a similar vision in life with your partner is important too. It doesn’t have to be that you work in the same fields. It does mean you have a similar goal for life. The way you are planning your life, your lifestyle fit entirely together and you always have your best quality time with them.
How to know not to give up the relationship? If your troubled relationship has some or all of the following pointers:
- Both of you still feel the same way,
- What dividing you are out of both your control,
- You share the same values.
Then the relationship is worth saving.
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