When to let go of in a relationship? We are meant to be happy, to feel fulfilled in a romantic relationship. But more than often, this is not the case. Many relationships are not happy at all, many relationships where the partners are distressed and depressed, many relationships one-sided. We know that it cannot be all the time rosy from time-to-time challenges will arise in the relationship, but those are part of even healthy relationships. But when relationships are overwhelmed with issues, especially from the partners, not external ones, it becomes much more complicated. If you are in a relationship with too many internal problems, issues related to trust, loyalty, support, respect… you need to stop and think. Think if this is the proper relationship to see if the relationship could change into a relationship you desire. If you are not convinced, maybe the relationship doesn’t worth staying in. If you encounter these signs in your relationship, perhaps you are in the relationship.
YOU ARE HAPPY WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS NOT AROUND
If your relationship has become so tense that you are happy, relaxed, and relieved when your partner is not around. That means something is very wrong. You are not looking to see him/her; you are not comfortable around them anymore, which means you are no longer in the relationship. You are basically forcing yourself to remain in the relationship. If you do not have a genuine, solid reason, it’ll be a waste to salvage this relationship.
YOU DO NOT GIVE EACH OTHER THE SAME PRIORITY
You may be given more importance to your partner than he is given you. This is the case when he/she is your top priority while you hardly make their top 10. When a relationship is a handicap with this type of issue, there is a high probability of not seeing the connection in the same way. A simple test to see if your relationship is seen in this example: you always pick up their call straight away regardless of the circumstances, but they rarely do the same and barely get back to you to inquire why you were calling.
TOO MANY ARGUMENTS
Your relationship is plagued with arguments; any little conversation ends in confrontation, causing you to fear your meetings, ultimately leading you to be apart. You realise that you cannot have proper communication to deal with anything when one starts and the other loses it. The quiet, civilised communication quickly turned into a heated argument. And this frequently happens again, and again and again. You do not know what to do.
YOU ARE TURNING INTO SOMEONE ELSE
Being in some relationships will change your personality. They transform your deepest values; make you do things you wouldn’t otherwise do. some of these things include:
- You become too talkative, argumentative, defensive,
- You become addicted to some drugs substances, to gambling
- You become some kind of prostitute.
When to let go of in a relationship, and let go. Do not seek to keep a relationship when:
- You are happy when your partner is not around,
- You do not give each other the same priority
- Too many arguments,
- You are turning into someone else.
When you face one or more of these challenges in your relationship, it is luckily that the relationship is not the right one for you. Hence not Worthing being saved.