Deal with body self-consciousness in a relation. Are you body self-conscious in your relationship? Being in a romantic relationship often implies being intimate with someone else. This suggests this person will see the whole glory of your nakedness, therefore, see your body flaws. This could make some persons very uncomfortable, especially at the start of relationships, when the partners are not used to each other yet. Usually, this phase wears out quickly down the line. But in some relationships, the discomfort persists and, in the long can cause all kinds of insecurities and ultimately jeopardise the relationship. Many reasons can make people bodies self-conscious. Lisa Kelly, a therapist, said that people might ‘fear our partner will discard us for someone better.’   

In this article, we went over some known factors, some potential reasons why some people remain body self-conscious even after a long time in the relationship; we will look into possible solutions.  

COMMON BODY ISSUES THAT MAKE PEOPLE SELF CONSCIOUS:  

• WEIGHT/ BODY SHAPE: too big or thin are often cause body shame. Some people are susceptible to the issue. They are so aware that they make an unsurmountable problem. The people on the bigger size will want to lose weight, and the ones on the thin side will wish to, if not put on weight, enhance some of their body parts such as bum, boob…  

• BREAST SIZE: another factor causing body shame are the breasts. If they are too small sizes, too big or become too flat, they can be all causes of self-consciousness.  

• PENIS SIZE: penis size for men is significant. Some men without the so-called ‘right size’ are easily body-conscious about it.  

• BODY ODOUR: some people have naturally foul body odour, making them feel very uncomfortable. That goes the same for people prone to bloating; those will luckily be passing more gas more often than usual.  

WHY ARE YOU STILL FEELING SELF CONSCIOUS ABOUT YOUR BODY IN THE RELATIONSHIP?  

Understandably, some partners feel apprehensive about their bodies at the beginning of the relationship. Because they cannot predict their partners’ reactions. But once partners are intimate, they see all it has to be seen, and partners still decide to stay together, the discomfort should disappear. If it still remains and lingers, there is an issue in the relationship. Some possible reasons include:  

• The partner did not fully accept the other partner’s flaw; therefore, they bullied or found sneaky ways to remind the other about their flaws.  
• The partner with the body issue cannot accept themselves as they are. They are hard on themselves. They want to change at all costs, refusing who they are. They will keep being more and more body-conscious  
• Or people around them kept bringing up the issue constantly. These people could be family, friends, neighbours, colleagues……keeping the insecurities alive, difficult to forget.  

WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT?  

Anyone with self-body conscious issues should take themselves in hand. They should accept themselves before accepting someone else. Like actress Gabourey Sidibe said, ‘one day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I love myself no matter what my body looks like.’  

 If the issue lies with their partners bully partners, they should be brave enough to call off the relationship if this makes them unhappy. When someone loves you, they should love the whole of you, not only some part of you.  

They should trust themselves to build their self-esteem and confidence. And always remember that ‘no one is perfect.’

  

CONCLUSION  

Deal with body self-consciousness in a relation. This article will luckily explain why that is and what to do. The suggestions are maybe constructive.  

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