7 steps to be a sophisticated lady. It took me quite long to realise the massive gap between being clean, average, and sophisticated. It takes much more than the occasional pampering, dressing up, dolling up. Although I like to think of myself as someone classy, educated, well mannered, I still deep down knew that I lacked this little thing that would make me a complete sophisticated lady. To my dismay, I went over the attributes or values needed to be a sophisticated lady, and I realised that I lacked some of the features. I was in some of in the middle, I was in the kind of ‘it’s okay but not enough’ category. So, I decided to remedy the issue, acquiring what needed to be an entirely sophisticated lady who would stand anywhere; I must admit, it was a lot of work. Here is what you need to be a refined lady.
- HAVING THE RIGHT DRESS CODE
To be and to look sophisticated, you need to be well dressed. This doesn’t mean wearing expensive clothing. It means that you need to pay special attention to what you wear. Your clothes need to be well suited, not too tight or too baggy; they should not be wrinkled or stained. Your clothes need to be well pressed and clean. You need to have a good fashion sense by wearing nice clothing combinations. She knows how to accessorise her clothing; she always paired the accessories with what she wore. She does not overdo it.
- BEING WELL-GROOMED
Another essential point of being and looking sophisticated is being well-groomed. A pleasant appearance, well put together, is crucial.
- Hair: you need to pay attention to your hair. Unkept or messy hair does not look sophisticated. You can do chic updos or sleek ponytails. If unsure, stick to classic hairstyles. Make sure to tame that frizzy hair, take care of unhealthy hair.
- Nails: unhealthy, chipped nails are always given aways. They tell people a lot about you. You can keep your nails natural, but they need to be well maintained, filed, smooth and good looking. Or you can paint your nails.
- Eyebrows: neatly shaped eyebrows make a significant difference on the face.
- CULTIVATING GOOD MANNERS
Attitude has a significant place in being sophisticated. A sophisticated lady should have some good manners. Those good manners involve:
- PUNCTUALITY: being punctual demonstrates that she takes the matter at hand seriously.
- RESPECTFUL: a sophisticated lady should show respect, not arrogance. She should treat people respectfully on any occasion.
- CAN LISTEN: she should cultivate the art of listening. Not everyone can listen. Listening really means giving undivided attention to what your interlocutor is saying, without stopping them, let them finish, and then answer or provide a reply if needed.
- NO SCREAMING, SHOUTING, GOSSIPING: a sophisticated lady is poised, talk in a measured voice, do not scream, shout, risk being aggressive. She does not indulge in gossiping.
- DISPLAYING CONFIDENCE
Another significant attribute of a sophisticated woman is confidence. She should exude confidence in all she does. The way she walks, the way she speaks, the way she dresses, the way to hold herself even when quiet. Her overall demeanour among people should be expressed with confidence. She always maintains a good posture.
- KEEPING SOME PRIVACY
So, I learned that a sophisticated lady should not expose her private life on social media platforms. She should carefully choose what to say, show or patronise. She respects and cherishes her privacy. She will jealously preserve her privacy.
- KEEPING LEARNING, INVEST IN SELF DEVELOPMENT
I also learned that you can be educated but still lacked in many knowledge. The only way to fill in the gap is to carry on learning. Because a sophisticated woman is well-spoken, well-informed, has much knowledge, is well-educated on different matters, and can sustain a conversation on various issues. She continues acquiring new knowledge, investing physically and financially in self-development.
- HAVING A CLEAN AND NEAT HOUSE
A sophisticated woman takes excellent care of her environment, particularly her home. A home often reflects the personality of its owner, so the sophisticated woman makes sure her home is always neat, tidy and clean, well looked after, like herself.
7 steps to be a sophisticated lady, involve implementing these tips above, by:
- Having the right dress code,
- Being well-groomed,
- Cultivating extra good manners,
- Displaying confidence,
- Keeping some privacy,
- Keeping learning, invest in self-development,
- Having a clean and tidy house.
For sure, I did not have all these attributes, so I made sure to fill in where I was lacking. Do you know any other tips? Please share in the comment section.