How to spot a narcissistic partner? Many people are in relationships where their partners are narcissistic. Narcissism is a type of personality disorder more common in men. Once in a relationship with a narcissistic person, you will find it challenging to fully be happy, to feel fulfilled. as Sheree Griffin said,” Narcissistic love is riding on the roller-coaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.”
At the beginning of the relationship, narcissistic people are very nice, and then things start to change as the relationship get more serious. They show their true colours. in this type of relationship, inevitably one will have to support or undergo some challenging behaviour such as criticism, frequent argument, manipulation… Is your partner displaying some narcissistic behaviour? Here we share some characteristics that can help You spot a narcissistic behaviour
LACK OF SUPPORT
A significant narcissist behaviour is a lack of support towards their partners. You will basically get any kind of support; on the contrary, they will try to demotivate you. A narcissistic partner will not support your ambitions, sometimes will not help you financially. For them, your achievements, ambitions are meaningless; only their own efforts, dreams count. They will require you to support them, but they will not return the favour.
A narcissist partner only thinks of themselves. They expect more than they give. It has to be about them in the relationship. They will do everything to outshine you. Literally, you are irrelevant; they are just using you. They will only support things that benefit them. They focus only on getting their needs met, ignoring their partner’s needs.
TOO MUCH CONTROLLING
Another trait of a narcissistic partner is controlling. In the beginning, you may easily confound this controlling trait with caring. You may think your partner care because they call you when you are not around, want to know where you are with who you are, when are you coming back…. they want to know absolutely everything about you, therefore be able to control your time, your life. But they will display all types of challenging behaviour when you try to reciprocate the habit; they will not allow you any control over their life. They will try by any possible mean to keep you under control.
DO NOT TAKE FEEDBACK WELL
A significant characteristic of narcissistic partners is that they will not receive well feedback. They think they are superior, that they know best. Sometimes people suffering from narcissism are not aware that they have the condition, making it more challenging to take any feedback or criticism about their behaviour. They are manipulative; they sometimes even turn the situation, play the victims to make you look bad.
SEEKING COMPLIMENTS AND ADMIRATION
A narcissistic partner will be on the lookout for compliments and admiration. They have to outdo, be the brightest in the relationship. But they will not hesitate to dismiss or diminish your achievements. They will even try to ‘rob’ you of your merit, taking credit for what they did not do. They will not allow you to outshine them. Usually, this ends up you having low self-esteem, lack of confidence.
LACK OF EMPATHY
Lack of empathy is another vital trait of a narcissistic partner. They lack this ability to recognise and meet your needs. They have this inability to listen to you, take into account your opinions. They tend to take important decisions related to the relationship on their own. Your needs are just ignored.
How to spot a narcissistic partner? Signs that your partner is a narcissist are diverse, including:
- Lack of support,
- Being selfish,
- Too much controlling,
- Not taking feedback well,
- Seeking compliment and admiration,
- Lack of empathy
Having one of those traits does not necessarily mean that your partner is a narcissist, but you start to wonder if they present more of those characteristics. Evidence has shown that a narcissist is very resistant to changes; you cannot change them, so if your partner is a narcissist, the choice is yours to make, you either change yourself and accept to live your life to make them happy, or you can leave them to be happy.
Do you know any other behaviour? Please share them in the comments section.