7 reasons holding women from their ambitions. Emancipation, equality, are well known everywhere nowadays. Women are emancipated; they have the same rights as men, we all have to be treated equally. We all know that, but the truth is, in most relationships, women come in second place, sometimes even if they are the breadwinner. Whatever we say or think, most societies have remained conservative, especially towards women. Women usually end up with more responsibilities, not necessarily financially. They give more and are most of the time relegated to put on hold or refrain their ambitions. Why are women sacrificing themselves, their aspirations? Here we provide you with 7 reasons that usually hold women back.
1. WHEN THEY ARE AFRAID OF THEIR PARTNER
Fear makes many women give up their ambitions. Fear from their partners. It could be genuine fear because of the presence of some kind of real threat, such as a husband forbidding his woman to do what she wants to do. Or women being somehow blackmailed…., or because they want to conform to some social norms including the ideas that the women should not surpass the husband, she should not outshine her partner who is supposed to be the head of the family. So, many women hold back and settle for less because of reprisals from partners or not wanting to look bad or make the partners look bad.
2. WHEN CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED
Many women feel obstructed in their ambition when children are involved. It may not be everywhere, but the women’s role involves children’s upbringing in many societies. So, it is not as appropriate for a woman who leaves or does not have time for her children to pursue a career. Because of children, some women accept to basically give up their professional life. And when the children grow up and need less attention, most of these women believe now that it is too late for them, so they just give up.
3. WHEN OLD AND SCARED OF BEING ALONE
When reaching a certain age, many women believe that it is too late for them. Especially nowadays when youngsters are more daring, more outspoken, making the competition fierce. Many women lose their confidence, have low self-esteem and fear putting themselves out there. They believe it is too late to start something, to do what they really want to do. So, they gave up.
4. WHEN HAVING NOWHERE TO GO
Many women are facing hardships in relationships that are no more convenient for them. Relationships where they are repressed, abused by unsupportive, authoritarians, narcissistic partners. They are Literally robbed of their freedom, but they take it because they have nowhere to go, no one to turn. This happened even in western societies. Many migrants\’ women live in this situation. The fear to find themselves on the streets prevent many women from expressing themselves. So, they give in.
5. WHEN FEARFUL OF WHAT PEOPLE WOULD SAY
To maintain the social appearance, to avoid people voicing bad opinions. Many women settle for much less than their abilities because they are afraid of what people say about them, especially if they have some unsupportive partners. They are worried that people such as extended family, friends, neighbours… will negatively criticise their ambitions, their actions. They overvalue others people’s opinions in their lives and therefore prefer to conform to their social norms and be exemplary wives and mothers.
6. WHEN LACK OF FINANCES
Some women meet setbacks because of a lack of finances. They lack the necessary money to start anew. This could be moving out and away from a bad relationship or fund to start a business. There are a few scenarios to this case:
- In cases where women are full housewives, men only cover their basic needs, so they do not have any savings,
- In cases where women do have incomes but do not control them, they share joint accounts with their partners, finances strictly controlled.
7. WHEN THINKING THEY ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
Some women encounter setbacks when they believe that they are not good enough. Maybe they have abusive relationships where they have been brainwashed into believing this. They have repeatedly been told things such as:
- ‘You are good for nothing.’
- ‘You are too big or ‘too small.’
- ‘You are dumb’ or ‘stupid.’
- ‘it’s not for people like you
Ultimately, these women grow to believe that they are not capable; That they cannot achieve anything. They lose their confidence and have very low self-esteem.
7 reasons holding women from their ambitions include:
- When they are afraid of their partners,
- When children are involved,
- When they think they are old and are scared to be alone,
- When having nowhere to go
- When fearful of what people will say,
- When lack of finances,
- When thinking they are not good enough.
Can you think of any other reason? Please share in the comments box.