Women,5 things to know before leaving partner. No one gets into a relationship, foreseeing down the line a breakup, a separation or a divorce. But life happens, and even a good relationship, marriage can collapse. Unforeseen, unpredictable and sometimes insurmountable obstacles can arise between partners, making it impossible to remain together. We only get one life, which is short, so we need to spend it wisely and happily whenever possible. If you are not happy or feel fulfilled in a relationship, you do not have to remain in it. If you consider leaving your partner, especially someone you are legally bound to, you need to get prepared. Here are 5 recommendations to help you be ready to face life afterwards.
1. KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING YOUR RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS
Some women are well aware of their rights, but others are not aware. Whether you are in a superficial relationship or a legal partnership, you have some rights: you do have as well some obligations. So, if you are on the blindside, start doing some research to know exactly where you stand. Be informed to avoid some profound disappointments at the end. There are local services which can help you. Another good place to start is online, where you can access endless free resources. It is a good idea to know what you can, what you cannot; to know what you are entitled to; or what your partner is entitled to. If there are children involved, know what could happen. The Same applies to assets. Do not let your future be determined by chance.
2. PLAN AHEAD
Planning ahead should be a must if you are considering separating from your partner. You should think about what will happen next. Answering the following questions will help you to plan. Ask yourself these questions:
- Where will you live?
- what will you do for a living?
- will my job be impacted?
- how to rearrange your working hours to accomodate my children?
- what can you do to make your life better?
- how will you manage your finances?
- how to cope with the heartbreak?
- where to go for help?
Honestly, answering these questions will definitely give you a better understanding of what to do and help you shape the future. You will be less surprised and prepared for what is coming.
3. KEEP IT SIMPLE BUT HAVE BOUNDARIES
Separating from your partner is not a war; well, there are some exceptions. But usually, most partners keep a relaxed relationship after separating. The romantic relationship did not work, but you can remain friends, acquaintances. This is especially important when children are involved. Keep it simple, friendly, if possible, but set up some clear boundaries.
4. LEARN SOME SKILLS
This is an important part if you are planning of separating from your partner. In most relationships, some little tasks are generally attributed to men. For example:
- changing the lights bulb,
- making a hole in the wall,
- taking the garbage out,
- small car checks,
- hanging the curtains,
- Setting up appliances,
If you consider leaving your partner, and you do not wish to be paying someone to carry out these little tasks, you can start learning these skills yourself and practice. You can access a whole lot of helpful resources available online to help you.
5. IT’S OKAY, THAT’S LIFE
It is not rare to see some women feeling guilty when planning to separate from their partner, especially if it is a long-term relationship or with children involved. It is okay, that is life, and you are only looking after yourself. Mind you, if you do not take care of yourself, no one else will. You do not have to feel guilty when you are not happy; you are looking for a better future, looking for some peace of mind and heart, and running away from anything that takes away or disturbs your inner peace.
In the scenario, you, the woman, are not the instigator of the separation but still face being abandoned. You just had to put yourself together and still apply these recommendations.
Women,5 things to know before leaving partner. These involved:
- understanding your right and obligations,
- planning ahead,
- Keeping it simple but setting boundaries,
- Learning new skills,
- Knowing that it’s okay, that’s life
Keeping these recommendations in mind, better implementing them will make the transition easier. Do you know other tips that you would like to share? Please comment in the box below.